Tragedy. Art. Influence.  

What a marvelous Monday! I know I usually express how every Monday is marvelous but, this Monday was REALLY a marvelous Monday!

On, I had a very special guest in studio with me, Kalen McGuire. Kalen is an artist, a photographer, a college student, and my cousin!


Me and Kalen


Kalen and I had a great conversation and both smiled a lot while talking. I asked him about how and when he first knew he was an artist; where he draws inspiration for his work and what made him stop playing football, for good. He even brought in a beautiful portrait he painted for especially his mother. An extra special treat was the debut of some wearable art that I couldn’t help but love!

Tragedy In Charlottesville. 

Before talking with Kalen, I spoke about the horrific protest in Charlottesville, Virginia. After listening to the replay of the show, I have to admit that I sounded like one of those judgmental folks, that has never parented a human being or who has only “perfect offspring,” who I, in real life, challenge.

But on the show, as I spoke about my anger about white supremacist walking freely through the Charlottesville streets and wondering out loud where they learned their hatred, my words and tone suggested that all parents know what their son or daughter is doing every second of the day; that all parents know what their son or daughter is thinking and that they know everything their son or daughter is influenced by. To insinuate that line of thinking is irrational.

There are many variables that influence someone to become who they choose to be. Suggesting that all of the white supremacist and alt right protesters who marched Friday night and Saturday must have all been raised by white supremacist and alt right parents, was irresponsible.

As someone who prides herself, and her work, on being a partner to parents, I know that young people can sometimes grow up to be different from the person we planned or wanted them to be. I also know that we can be a major influence in who they choose to be and what they choose to believe but, I used poor judgment for not implicitly making this distinction clear.

You may be wondering if I heard from folks which would explain why I’m making this statement.

I didn’t.

I would tell you.

This is me taking responsibility for my own words. Constantly practicing what I teach.

Listen. Watch. Both.

I hope you get a moment to watch or listen to the show. The link to the video of the show will allow you to see some of Kalen’s beautiful pieces of art. If you prefer to listen only, here is the link for the audio.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the episode. Feel free to comment below or by email.

Let’s love one another. Be kind to one another. Get outside of our comfort zones and be the influencers we desire to see!


Artist, Kalen McGuire

You Are Marvelous!


  5 comments for “Tragedy. Art. Influence.  

  1. BrandanWH
    August 15, 2017 at 1:23 pm

    Beautifully written! And that jacket is beautiful!

    • August 15, 2017 at 2:46 pm

      🤗 thank you Brandan! And the jacket? It is my new favorite thing! 😄

    • August 16, 2017 at 6:30 pm

      love you and thank you!!

  2. Brandi
    August 16, 2017 at 4:52 am

    While reading this post, your lovely God Daughter, the Littlest Brown, was singing her own rendition of “Man in the Mirror”. Of course she has no idea what I am reading, but she reminds me constantly why you are my parent partner! Y’all are always on the same page. As she got to the part of the song, “if you want to make the world a better place”, I thought that is a great summary of how you owned your own stuff, not for anything more than to make a change! Great post and keep being MARVELOUS!

    • August 16, 2017 at 6:30 pm

      Brandi, you know there are tears right? 😀 I am so grateful you and Brandan allow me to partner with y’all. NOOO coincidence you two are the first to comment. LOVE y’all dearly!

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