She’s Not Ignoring It.

This post was originally posted in December of 2017. During this time there were several stories in the mainstream media of brave women coming forward to share their experiences of sexual abuse. This movement is now referred to as the #MeToo movement, a term coined by social activist and community organizer, Tarana Burke.

In 2006, Tarana started the me too movement to “help survivors of sexual violence, particularly young women of color from low wealth communities, find pathways to healing.” The phrase and subsequently, the hashtag (#MeToo), developed into a much broader movement when sexual abuse survivors of former Hollywood producer, Harvey Weinstein, stepped forward.

Well, with the recent Supreme Court nomination and now hearing, we are there again. There is language in the mainstream media. There is a woman who has come forward to tell her story, her experience.

Because language is important.  Because words are important. Because experiences are important, I thought it would be a good idea to repost this blog.

I hope that you’re already having this discussion with your preteens and teens. I hope this enhances the conversation. And if you’re not having the discussion yet, I ask you to talk about it.

Please.

So she can be aware and be prepared.

There’s more information at the end if you want a partner in this conversation. I’ll be glad to partner with you. And to the new members of our community, welcome. We’re glad you’re here.

Love,
Shanterra

— December 12, 2017 —

SEX

It doesn’t matter how old your preteen or teenager is, there aren’t too many folks rushing to talk about sex.

You try to shield them from even hearing the word but, with the way our news cycle is set up, you can’t avoid the subject, even if you wanted to.

Sex is being talked about at all hours of the day because every day, for the past few months, particularly the past 30 days, there has been a story in the mainstream news about sex. And not just sex but, inappropriate sexual behavior. Sexual assault. Sexual harassment. Sexual misconduct. Sex.

You may be thinking, Shanterra, why are YOU talking about this? What does this have to do with marvelous girls or preteens or parenting, etc?

A Lot!

Fear of Sex

In my book, Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous, chapter 3 is titled “Decide When You Want to Have Sex and Stick To It.”

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How folks respond when they see the title of chapter 3

Because of this chapter, some parents have shared they are hesitant to give the book to their middle school and even high school daughters. I have been on the phone or in email conversations explaining how I am in NO WAY encouraging sex, promoting sex or telling girls to have sex. It’s actually quite the opposite.

Yes, I would like for girls to wait. I would like for girls to come up with their OWN plan for when they decide to have sex. I would like for girls to think for themselves instead of someone else (who is usually a peer who is just as inexperienced or just as unprepared or just as immature or just as ill-informed) making strong suggestions of when they should have sex or even talk about sex.

I would like for girls to think where they would like to be when they have this moment. What they would like to be changing out of? Do they have to love the person? Does the person have to love them?

A girl knowing the answers to those questions will not make her go out and have sex.

Instead, the questions make her think…for herself.

Like you, I would love for middle school and high school girls to just do what I say and not ever have sex because we know best, right? I would love for them to never experience pain or hurt or discomfort in this season of adolescence. I would love for them to avoid all roadblocks and tearstained-pillow nights. But, that’s not realistic.

So since they will still go through adolescence, with or without me, I am mindful of my approach and hope to help prepare them for when they encounter questions from other people and one of those questions will be about sex.

My First Exposure Experience

Considering all that’s been in the news lately, I’ve been wondering how folks are having the conversation with girls about what is being reported. How are we addressing what they’re hearing? Do we understand how it could be connected to them more than we realize? How?

Well…

The first time I saw a boy’s penis was in my 5th-grade classroom. The boys in 5th grade seemed to be so proud of their penis and wanted all the girls to see it. Without any prompting from the girls, the boys, at their desk, would unzip their pants and show their penis. And not the whole thing, just enough for the girls to be completely embarrassed and grossed out. I don’t ever recall a friend near me asking for the boys to expose themselves, like, “oooh lemme see!” The boys would just unzip and bam!

Not a big bam but, bam.

I don’t recall anyone ever telling our teacher and I can only assume she didn’t know this was happening. But, it is something I will never forget. We were 10. Even without anyone ever telling us, the girls in my class excused their behavior as boys will be boys. Yup, at 10-years-old.

Schools Say No

This may surprise you but, I’ve had schools, where I was invited to speak, purchase my book for their girls and then decide not to distribute the book to the students. Why? Because of Chapter 3.

I always suggest administrators read the book first because I know how schools feel about sex. I was an assistant principal at a high school and every school administrator would like to believe all our students are unblemished and not even interested in sex. Even though they’re young people and youth development and puberty are real!

We admit their attitudes are changing.

We’re semi-comfortable acknowledging their bodies are changing.

But their thoughts? Nope. Nope. Nope! Attachment-1 (11)

Even when they’re exposed to language and images every single day, and that’s just on regular television, billboards, and social media.

I’ve come to realize it’s not just sex that makes parents and schools nervous, it’s the idea of girls thinking about sex that terrifies a lot of people. Our culture is comfortable and even accepting of boys talking about sex. Because, ya know, “boys will be boys” and sex (wanting it, lying about it, simulating it) is a part of them discovering their manhood. I call a flag on the play!   flagontheplayBut, until we admit what we believe, girls are going to keep being left in the dark and boys are going to also be left in the dark while their behavior is excused.

Listen. Talk. Share.

I get it. There are many parents and educators who want to be the ones to introduce sex to their 11-year-old or 15-year-old or 21-year-old. But, seeing the news cycle, may I make a few suggestions to make sure there is clarity on what the preteen or teen or young adult in your life is hearing? To make sure she has the definitions of what she’s bombarded with, especially without your consent or her consent.

Here are some definitions that I hope will help.

Sexual harassment is unwanted and unwelcome sexual attention and behavior.  The behavior is defined as sexual harassment by the person who is receiving it. Period. Yes, this can also happen at school. Yes, sexual harassment can happen between peers. No, it is not just in the workplace. No, we do not excuse sexual harassment as kids just being kids.

Sexual Assault, according to RAINN,  refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the victim.

Rape is a form of sexual assault, but not all sexual assault is rape. The term rape is often used as a legal definition to specifically include sexual penetration without consent.

Sexual misconduct is a broad term encompassing any unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature that is committed without consent or by force, intimidation, coercion, or manipulation.

I know this is uncomfortable. But, my hope is to inform you with what I can, not to ignite fear. This is just a little information and more can be found here. I love this resource, especially for parents.

Decide When You Want To Have Sex And Stick To It

I know this post was not a typical post but, I hope it was helpful and informative. I also hope that you’re willing to allow your girls to read Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous.

Friendships, body image, sex, decision making, healthy risks…are all a part of adolescent development. The beauty is by creating a plan, she’s more likely to stick to it instead of being caught off guard. The other beautiful part is most girls plans are to wait, wait until marriage, wait until they’re in love, wait until they’re not in their school uniform, wait until they’re ready, wait!

But, that happens when a plan is in place. A plan she’s created.

With that said, Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous is also a great book to read together. This way, you create time to talk with her about your plans for her and why you want her to have a plan. It gives you a chance to hear what the girl you love is thinking about and perhaps even what her friends are talking about.

And, if you ever have any questions, don’t hesitate to reach out.

As always, I am thankful to partner with you as you raise the marvelous girls in your life.

If you think this is something others would find helpful, please share with them. Post it on your own social media sites. Email it to others. And most importantly, talk to your marvelous girl.

With Gratitude,

Shanterra

Questions to Ponder:

  1. Was this helpful?
  2. How will you use this post to converse with your marvelous girl?
  3. Does your marvelous girl have a plan?
  4. Does your marvelous girl’s school need a speaker like me to come in?
  5. What other information would you like me to share or talk about?

 

Summer Ends. Marvelousness Doesn’t!

 

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Heeeeeeelllllo!!! It’s been a long time!

There is so much to share with you especially about the past few months. If you follow me on Instagram or on Facebook, you had a chance to see why I called this summer the #BestSummerEver

In June, I held a two-week class at Hockaday as part of their #SummerAtHockaday camp. After a quick trip to Houston to speak at Blueridge United Methodist Church, I traveled to the Kingdom of Morocco with 13 high school girls and 3 other fabulous women through Girl Captain, for ten powerful days of challenges, leadership, and adventure. 2018-07-04_06-22-22_441

After Morocco, I stayed in New Hampshire with Brook to relax, hike, speak and prepare for GLC! 🙂 After our 8th summer for Girls Leadership Camp, I came home, unpacked and packed for South Africa!!

Yes, South Africa! I am now a part of the U.S. Department of State’s Office of the U.S. Speaker Program. So through the U.S. Mission South Africa, I traveled to four cities in South Africa where I spoke on girls empowerment issues including creating safe spaces, combating gender-based violence, and anti-bullying.

I promise to share more about my summer at another time because this post was supposed to be about one of the best days coming in October! 🙂

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Atlantis Secondary School, Western Cape, South Africa

This year will be the 3rd Annual Marvelous Girls’ Summit! In the past, we’ve invited girls who are in the 6th-8th grades, but this year, after many requests, the Marvelous Girl’s Summit will include 5th-grade girls. Attachment-1 (6)

This summit will bring girls from different schools, communities, backgrounds, and experiences together to connect in small groups over the one thing we all have in common: BEING A MARVELOUS GIRL!

Girls will learn about how to have “perfect” friendships; rejoice and celebrate loving her body as it is (she will love the jiggle talk); see current fashion trends in the form of a real fashion show and take away tips on how to make the trends work for her and she’ll do all of this while having a lot of fun!

There is even a special workshop for you, the adult woman in her life, who can join us after lunch to learn more about issues concerning girls, like cyberbullying and addressing anxiety with girls.

Speaking of special women, an extraordinary student group at SMU, Sisters Supporting Sisters, is once again, our unique partner in designing this day. These college women will help facilitate workshops, provide mentorship and be real examples of how cool it is for girls to support other girls.

Without a doubt, every girl, regardless of age, will leave the Marvelous Girls’ Summit knowing she IS a marvelous GIRL!

Don’t just take my word for it. Here is a testimonial from one of our attendees!

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When: Saturday, October 20, 2018

Where: SMU, Hughes-Trigg Student Center

Time: 8:30 am – 4:30 pm

Character Education Workshops:

*Building awesome friendships

*Maintaining a healthy self-image

*Choosing how fashion trends work for you

*Being! Vulnerable, Brave & Taking Risk

*Raising a Marvelous Girls (family engagement with adult women only)

Activities
*Fun!

*Dance breaks

*Fun!

*Team building

*Fun!

*Time for reflection and journaling in her Marvelous Girl workbook

*Fun!

*Campus Tour

*Fun!

Marvelous Girls’ Summit Registration includes workshop materials, t-shirt, gift bag, breakfast, lunch, snacks throughout the day AND you (her favorite adult) for the afternoon session!

Early Registration is open NOW! 

Also, there are special registration rates for groups registering 5 or more girls.

As you can see, we are excited about this day and look forward to you joining us! If you have any questions, please email info@marvelousuniversity.com.

Have a MARVELOUS week,
Shanterra

 

Love Your Jiggle & Skate

To all of our friends and marvelous girls in the Houston area, good news! Marvelous University is coming to HOUSTON!!

Attachment-1 (5)Hype Freedom School, in partnership with Marvelous University, will host Love Your Jiggle & Skate, an interactive workshop where girls in the 6th – 8th grades will make friends, make moves and make memories.

REGISTER HERE

Middle school girls are wonderful, curious, marvelous and HYPE! But, you’d have a hard time convincing them of this, especially with the messages they receive from our culture.

Instead, girls believe everything is changing without their consent and that’s because everything is changing without their consent. This constant change means friendships can get confusing, perceptions about body image can be intimidating and middle school can just flat out be a different challenge every single day.

For these reasons and many more, middle school girls need a place where they can connect with other girls, laugh out loud, let off some steam and be reminded that they are MARVELOUS!

Through Love Your Jiggle & Skate, Hype Freedom School & Marvelous University will create this place!

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Click the picture below to register and share with your friends because no one should miss this! See you on the 28th!

Love Your Jiggle & Skate

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(thank you in advance, for your flexibility) 🙂 

8:30 AM Registration and Drop-off
9:00 AM Welcome & Logistics
9:15 AM “Friendship Is…” conversation
9:45 AM Marvelous Girls Move (Skate)
10:15 AM “Love Your Jiggle Part I” conversation
10:45 AM Marvelous Girls Move (Skate)
11:15 AM “Love Your Jiggle Part II” conversation
11:45 PM Closing Activity
12:00 PM Pick Up (Marvelous Girls Move)

Marvelous 2018

Happy New Year!

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Let me begin by saying, “thank you.”

Thank you for joining me on this journey to inspire young people, especially girls, to be more than what’s expected, more than what’s required, and more than what’s modeled.

Thank you for partnering with me by inviting me into your schools as a speaker, motivator, encourager and culture challenger.

Thank you for joining me by bringing your girls to the Marvelous Girls’ Summit, by registering yourself for Marvelous Moms and Mentors, by meeting on Facebook Live, by listening on DFWiRadio and by sharing an inspirational or action inspiring Facebook post, blog entry or Instagram motivation.

Thank you for your questions this year that ranged from raising your marvelous girls to partnering with your school administrators regarding bullying to getting involved in your community and how to building bridges with those who do not look like you. You also asked about talking to your girls about tough subjects, including sexual assault, sexual harassment, and sex.

Thank you!

Also, I am so grateful for my purpose partners, those who often believe in the vision more than me at times, for those who pray with me and encourage me, and for those who know firsthand how hard it is to coach the coach. 🙂 Thank you!image

And now, we’re in 2018, and I hope you’ll continue on this journey with me and those who partner to make Marvelous University what it is. We have big goals to achieve and we’re going to need your help!

One big goal is to share with 20,000 girls by the year 2020 that they were born to be marvelous. We women and girls need to hear this! Girls need to know this because this truth affects who they call friend and has an impact on the kind of friend they will be. It will affect what they say to their bodies and how they treat their bodies. Tired of all of the bullying videos that go viral with no resolution? Well, girls need to hear a different message and see a different messenger.

Girls knowing they were born to be marvelous will affect how they get involved in their community. It will affect how they share their gifts and talents with the world. It’s more than self-esteem, it’s knowing a fact and living out that fact! This is directly connected to their youth needs, to social-emotional learning, to their development. And it is the mission of Marvelous University.

So, whenever you see #20k2020 in any post, on Facebook, on Instagram, on Twitter or any social media outlet, know that we constantly have this on our mind.

Will you join us?

Great! Here are 5 quick ways to help us reach #20k2020:

  1. Invite me to your school, community, church, conference, seminar or anywhere people gather.
  2. Purchase Love Your Jiggle: The Girls’ Guide To Being Marvelous for every girl in your life (I hear moms, aunts, mentors and even college students love it, too).
  3. Let me partner with you as you raise your marvelous girl by having me as her coach. A coach doesn’t mean you’re not doing a good job with your preteen, teen or college-aged girl. Having a coach gives partnership. Having a coach focuses on the girl. Having a coach is proactive versus reactive. Think of how you get a piano teacher or a private tutor when she needs extra attention, to take her to the next level. The Marvelous Coaching Experience does the same thing but, impacts her whole life.
  4.  Bring the Marvelous Girls’ Summit to your city
  5. Tell others! People listen to people they know and when YOU tell them about Marvelous University, then they will listen to YOU and the impact will spread.

2015-11-24 00.11.10And when you think of other ways, DO those, too!

Another goal for 2018 is to get Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous in the hands of Oprah Winfrey. I know, I know. Every person wants Oprah to know their work but, this is different. It’s not for fame or recognition. It’s truly to impact girls lives globally.

The more I do the work, the more I look at her leadership academy and the more that I partner with girls throughout the country, the more I am convinced, her girls would love this book! I am also ready to speak at her school. We can do a workshop, a book club, consecutive seminars…it’s just time.

Speaking of time and international impact, 2018 will be the year of international exposure and I’m super excited! On my birthday in 2017, I wrote in my journal that I was ready to take Marvelous University internationally. Well, on June 27, 2018, just two days after my birthday, I will be traveling with high school girls and my good GLC sistahfriend Brook, to MOROCCO! Attachment-1 (5)

Through Girl Captain, we will take high school aged young women abroad to facilitate leadership workshops with elementary aged girls in rural villages (along with doing tons of other amazing stuff). We will love our jiggle all the way from North America to North Africa!

Interested in joining us or learning more about the experience? Check out the website for all the information you’ll need. #20k2020

So, as you can see, 2017 was pretty marvelous and I have great anticipation for 2018! Join us, partner with us and allow me to partner with you. Together we can make a difference in the lives of girls to impact our world!

I’ll close as I began, THANK YOU! May this year bring you love, intention, joy, peace, a renewed hope and marvelous moments to influence lives. Happy New Year!

With Gratitude,

Shanterra

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How to partner with Shanterra

Sex.

It doesn’t matter how old your preteen or teenager is, there aren’t too many folks rushing to talk about sex.

You try to shield them from even hearing the word but, with the way our news cycle is set up, you can’t avoid the subject, even if you wanted to.

Sex is being talked about at all hours of the day because every day, for the past few months, particularly the past 30 days, there has been a story in the mainstream news about sex. And not just sex but, inappropriate sexual behavior. Sexual assault. Sexual harassment. Sexual misconduct. Sex.

You may be thinking, Shanterra, why are YOU talking about this? What does this have to do with marvelous girls or preteens or parenting, etc?

A Lot!

Fear of Sex

In my book, Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous, chapter 3 is titled “Decide When You Want to Have Sex and Stick To It.”

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How folks respond when they see the title of chapter 3

Because of this chapter, some parents have shared they are hesitant to give the book to their middle school and even high school daughters. I have been on the phone or in email conversations explaining how I am in NO WAY encouraging sex, promoting sex or telling girls to have sex. It’s actually quite the opposite.

Yes, I would like for girls to wait. I would like for girls to come up with their OWN plan for when they decide to have sex. I would like for girls to think for themselves instead of someone else (who is usually a peer who is just as inexperienced or just as unprepared or just as immature or just as ill-informed) making strong suggestions of when they should have sex or even talk about sex.

I would like for girls to think where they would like to be when they have this moment. What they would like to be changing out of? Do they have to love the person? Does the person have to love them?

A girl knowing the answers to those questions will not make her go out and have sex.

Instead, the questions make her think…for herself.

Like you, I would love for middle school and high school girls to just do what I say and not ever have sex because we know best, right? I would love for them to never experience pain or hurt or discomfort in this season of adolescence. I would love for them to avoid all roadblocks and tearstained-pillow nights. But, that’s not realistic.

So since they will still go through adolescence, with or without me, I am mindful of my approach and hope to help prepare them for when they encounter questions from other people and one of those questions will be about sex.

My First Exposure Experience

Considering all that’s been in the news lately, I’ve been wondering how folks are having the conversation with girls about what is being reported. How are we addressing what they’re hearing? Do we understand how it could be connected to them more than we realize? How?

Well…

The first time I saw a boy’s penis was in my 5th-grade classroom. The boys in 5th grade seemed to be so proud of their penis and wanted all the girls to see it. Without any prompting from the girls, the boys, at their desk, would unzip their pants and show their penis. And not the whole thing, just enough for the girls to be completely embarrassed and grossed out. I don’t ever recall a friend near me asking for the boys to expose themselves, like, “oooh lemme see!” The boys would just unzip and bam!

Not a big bam but, bam.

I don’t recall anyone ever telling our teacher and I can only assume she didn’t know this was happening. But, it is something I will never forget. We were 10. Even without anyone ever telling us, the girls in my class excused their behavior as boys will be boys. Yup, at 10-years-old.

Schools Say No

This may surprise you but, I’ve had schools, where I was invited to speak, purchase my book for their girls and then decide not to distribute the book to the students. Why? Because of Chapter 3.

I always suggest administrators read the book first because I know how schools feel about sex. I was an assistant principal at a high school and every school administrator would like to believe all our students are unblemished and not even interested in sex. Even though they’re young people and youth development and puberty are real!

We admit their attitudes are changing.

We’re semi-comfortable acknowledging their bodies are changing.

But their thoughts? Nope. Nope. Nope! Attachment-1 (11)

Even when they’re exposed to language and images every single day, and that’s just on regular television, billboards, and social media.

I’ve come to realize it’s not just sex that makes parents and schools nervous, it’s the idea of girls thinking about sex that terrifies a lot of people. Our culture is comfortable and even accepting of boys talking about sex. Because, ya know, “boys will be boys” and sex (wanting it, lying about it, simulating it) is a part of them discovering their manhood. I call a flag on the play!   flagontheplayBut, until we admit what we believe, girls are going to keep being left in the dark and boys are going to also be left in the dark while their behavior is excused.

Listen. Talk. Share.

I get it. There are many parents and educators who want to be the ones to introduce sex to their 11-year-old or 15-year-old or 21-year-old. But, seeing the news cycle, may I make a few suggestions to make sure there is clarity on what the preteen or teen or young adult in your life is hearing? To make sure she has the definitions of what she’s bombarded with, especially without your consent or her consent.

Here are some definitions that I hope will help.

Sexual harassment is unwanted and unwelcome sexual attention and behavior.  The behavior is defined as sexual harassment by the person who is receiving it. Period. Yes, this can also happen at school. Yes, sexual harassment can happen between peers. No, it is not just in the workplace. No, we do not excuse sexual harassment as kids just being kids.

Sexual Assault, according to RAINN,  refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the victim.

Rape is a form of sexual assault, but not all sexual assault is rape. The term rape is often used as a legal definition to specifically include sexual penetration without consent.

Sexual misconduct is a broad term encompassing any unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature that is committed without consent or by force, intimidation, coercion, or manipulation.

I know this is uncomfortable. But, my hope is to inform you with what I can, not to ignite fear. This is just a little information and more can be found here. I love this resource, especially for parents.

Decide When You Want To Have Sex And Stick To It

I know this post was not a typical post but, I hope it was helpful and informative. I also hope that you’re willing to allow your girls to read Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous.

Friendships, body image, sex, decision making, healthy risks…are all a part of adolescent development. The beauty is by creating a plan, she’s more likely to stick to it instead of being caught off guard. The other beautiful part is most girls plans are to wait, wait until marriage, wait until they’re in love, wait until they’re not in their school uniform, wait until they’re ready, wait!

But, that happens when a plan is in place. A plan she’s created.

With that said, Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous is also a great book to read together. This way, you create time to talk with her about your plans for her and why you want her to have a plan. It gives you a chance to hear what the girl you love is thinking about and perhaps even what her friends are talking about.

And, if you ever have any questions, don’t hesitate to reach out.

As always, I am thankful to partner with you as you raise the marvelous girls in your life.

If you think this is something others would find helpful, please share with them. Post it on your own social media sites. Email it to others. And most importantly, talk to your marvelous girl.

With Gratitude,

Shanterra

Questions to Ponder:

  1. Was this helpful?
  2. How will you use this post to converse with your marvelous girl?
  3. Does your marvelous girl have a plan?
  4. Does your marvelous girl’s school need a speaker like me to come in?
  5. What other information would you like me to share or talk about?

 

Cyber Marvelous Monday

Cyber Monday is a marketing term for the Monday after the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States. According to Wikipedia, the term “Cyber Monday” was created by marketing companies to persuade people to shop online. The term was coined by Ellen Davis and Scott Silverman, and made its debut on November 28, 2005, in a Shop.org press release entitled “‘Cyber Monday’ Quickly Becoming One of the Biggest Online Shopping Days of the Year”.[1]

bell cyber shoppingSo what does that mean for Marvelous University?

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As the founder of Marvelous University, it means this is the perfect day to persuade you to stay on your computer to head to this website to purchase Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous, the book I wrote for middle school and high school girls.

Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide To Being Marvelous has received favorable reviews from girls and from parents, which warms my heart. But, more importantly, I’m thankful that girls are embracing the idea of loving themselves, even in the midst of chaos, change, and confusion. A time better known as adolescence!

 “I want to thank you for writing your book; I read it with my closest friend and she loves it and wants to buy it, too!“- Courtney, 16-year-old junior, Maryland

Since this is the season of gift-giving, I scoured the internet to see the top gifts for preteen and teenage girls. Most of the gifts were makeup kits, cameras, gadgets for phones and socks. I couldn’t help but think books, people, books! pretty pleaseAnd not just any book, a book where girls will feel like they’re having a conversation with a trusted adult. A book for girls that serves as a guide on navigating middle school and high school. A book that addresses the topics girls really think about, friendships, body image, and making the right decisions.

If ebooks are more of your thing, you can purchase the ebook on amazon.com, barnesandnoble.com, and itunes.com. The ebook is a great way for parents to read the book first before gifting it to your daughter, niece, cousin, neighbor, daughter’s friend…well, you get my point 🙂

Also, when you order on Amazon through the above link, you’ll get a chance to also give to an organization dear to my heart, HYPE Freedom School, Inc.

Shopping on Amazon through AmazonSmile is a simple and automatic way for you to support your favorite charitable organization every time you shop. HYPE Freedom School, Inc. will receive donations from eligible purchases you make at smile.amazon.com and starting with Love Your Jiggle: The Girl’s Guide to Being Marvelous is a great way to begin!

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As always, I hope this marvelous Monday will be the beginning of a fantastic week!

With Gratitude,

Shanterra

 

One More Moment:
If you ever need to reach me, don’t hesitate to shoot me an email info@marvelousuniversity.com

Also, if you haven’t had a chance to read the last blog post, you should! It was all about the second Marvelous Girls’ Summit and what a time, what a time!

Finally, like, comment and share this post with others. I’d really appreciate it and hopefully, those you share it with will too!

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The day was perfect! I really liked making new friends that I could ACTUALLY have fun with and relate to.

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The first word I uttered the morning of October 28th and it’s the same word I kept repeating throughout the day.

Wow. Wow! WOW!

October 28, 2017, was the second Marvelous Girls’ Summit. A day for girls to be themselves and to be reminded that they were born to be marvelous. It was also created for girls to be more than what’s expected, more than what’s required and more than what’s modeled. And based on the evaluations from the attendees and the testimonials from parents, we achieved our goal!

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The Marvelous Girls’ Summit 2017 Sponsors

Marvelous University, in partnership with Sisters Supporting Sisters and SMU, hosted the Marvelous Girls’ Summit (#MGS17) for middle school girls in the Hughes-Trigg Student Center at SMU. It was truly an unforgettable and totally, wonderful marvelous day. We were graced with girls from all over the Dallas/Ft. Worth area, plus middle schoolers who traveled from Houston.

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#HoustonStrong

Last year, Houston won our “who came the farthest” contest. But, this year, one of our marvelous girls flew in all the way from… CHICAGO!

Thank You

There are sooo many thank you’s to give. I didn’t want to wait to express my gratitude so the Monday after #MGS17, I took to Facebook Live to give a public thank you to our sponsors and volunteers. These unselfish folks and organizations helped make sure the day was a marvelous success! We can’t thank them enough for the generous gifts of their time and monetary contributions. They also provided prizes for the parents and the attendees. Our sponsors are amazing!

One sponsor the marvelous girls spent a lot of time with was The LAB Photo Booth. Can you think of one middle school girl who does not like to take pictures? And even if she doesn’t, add a boa and a pair of fancy sunglasses and I can almost guarantee, camera shyness leaves the room. 📸

I may have shed a tear or two of JOY while looking at the photos. A bonus was the pictures of the girls with their mentors and parents. So much personality and so much fun!

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We are so grateful to the LAB, for another marvelous partnership. Seriously, if you ever need a photo booth for your party or event, please partner with the LAB Photo Booth. You will be so glad you did!

 

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#MGS17 T-shirt

Another returning partner was Ricochet Promotions, who designed and provided our beautiful t-shirts and drawstring gift bags. You know you have a great shirt when moms and mentors want t-shirts for themselves (#score)! 🙂

And have I mentioned the volunteers? The day would have been impossible without the marvelous volunteers! There aren’t enough words or ways to thank them for how my heart overflows with gratitude. My family volunteered. Friends volunteered, even traveling from Atlanta, Chicago, and Meriden, as in New Hampshire!

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The MGS17 Team (missing JJ)

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Brook & Shanterra: We are who we ARE!

If you’ve read this blog before,  you’ve heard me talk about Brook Raney and Girls Leadership Camp. Brook and GLC have been my summer highlight for the past seven years.

This is when I travel to New Hampshire and partner with Brook to teach girls about friendships and jiggle love, eat wonderful gelato, kayak down the Connecticut River and basically have the time of my life. All while remembering GLC’s motto: I am who I am!

Well, this fall, Brook came to Dallas to celebrate the Marvelous Girls’ Summit and she was a GIFT! She lead our icebreakers and made sure the girls had crazy fun while getting to know one another. 2017-10-28_09-08-34_130When she wasn’t connecting with the attendees and college women, Brook also served as the make-sure-all-kids-under-seven-have-the-perfect-day person. 🙂 She’s amazing!

And, another plus? Brook finally got to meet my BFFLS, Brandi Brown, who once again, served as my planning and execution partner. I am extremely thankful!

This day was perfect. Nothing needs to be changed. It was very helpful to speak things out loud. Also, I loved the college students. They were very nice!

The day would not have been nearly as fun, energized, and successful without my mentor, Jennifer Jones, Executive Director of Student Life at SMU and Sisters Supporting Sisters. The attendees LOVED these intelligent, fun, and gifted young women who served as emcee’s, group leaders, tour guides and all-around marvelous examples.

They were truly a blessing, not only to me but most importantly, to all the girls who attended the Marvelous Girls’ Summit.

“I loved my mentors. They were AMAZING!” 

The Marvelous Runway

#MGS17 would not have been great without Sisters Supporting Sisters, the LAB Photo Booth, and all the volunteers! And there is another highlight of the day. FASHION!

Leah Frazier and Arden Eiland presented our Fashionista or Close Enough workshop and they were MARVELOUS!

Fashionpreneur, Leah Frazier, was such a huge hit at last year’s summit that we had to have her back. Arden is a freshman in high school who attended the summit last year. I follow her on Instagram and she has a great eye for fashion. Oh, and her mom and I have been friends since 7th grade 🙂 #YayDeSoto

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Arden, me, Randi

Creating spaces for girls to be their marvelous selves is what Marvelous University is all about and after following Arden on IG and reading her blog, I just knew her voice would fit perfectly with Leah’s. I also knew she would be a great example to other girls on following your dreams and using your voice, regardless of age. They were a fantastic team!

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Fashionista or Close Enough presenters, Arden and Leah

The girls loved this workshop! An addition that made the workshop memorable was the generosity of the Dallas Galleria. Leah and Arden were allowed to pull clothes and accessories from Forever 21 and Apricot Lane to use for their interactive workshop. #winningDSC_0061
The marvelous girls were able to view different looks and choose the style they prefer to rock. The highlight though was each girl practicing her confident walk on our runway. I cannot express how much this touched me. Attachment-1 (9)I was in tears watching each girl walk her brave self down the runway and receive cheers from her new friends.

“I loved everything! It was really empowering and inspiring. I especially loved the fashion part because the cheering crowd was a major confidence booster.”

As you can tell, the day was…okay, I’m not going to say it but, you’re thinking it… om_logoWe laughed together, shared with one another, reflected on how to love our jiggle and made promises to be brave and take safe risks! The girls even had a chance to see SMU’s campus.

“I wish I could come next year. Also, you should open it to freshman because I am in 8th grade and want to come back.”

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JJ (middle) with her proteges

Hopefully, this post gives you insight into the most amazing day. I know it was longer than what I typically write but, there was so much good stuff to share. The Marvelous Girls’ Summit started off as a vision in my heart last year and we saw it come to light.

Right up until the day of #MGS17, there were many reminders that there are people who believe, support, pray, encourage and partner with me because they believe in the vision, too. And with them (YOU included) we will reach the goal of reminding 20K girls by 2020 that they were born to be marvelous!

Thank you so much for being a part of this journey. Have a Marvelous Monday and a wonderful week!

With Gratitude,
Shanterra

 

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There is more to come from Marvelous University so stay tuned. We’re planning something for high school girls so make sure you’re subscribed to this page to hear about it first. 🙂

Best Day of My Life

Happy Marvelous Monday!

By now I’m sure you’ve heard about the 2nd Annual Marvelous Girls’ Summit, happening Saturday, October 28 at SMU, for 6th-8th graders, right?
So, have you registered yet?

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If your answer is yes, that’s awesome! Now you can help spread the word and invite someone else to register.

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What are you waiting on? 😳

We’re less than two weeks away from the event that will inspire girls to be more than what’s expected, more than what’s required and more than what’s modeled.

The Marvelous Girls’ Summit

Created for middle school girls, this summit will bring girls together from diverse backgrounds, experiences, and communities to connect in small groups on the one thing we all have in common: the quest to BEING A MARVELOUS GIRL!

At the MGS, girls will learn about how to have “perfect” friendships; rejoice and celebrate loving her body as it is (she will love the jiggle talk); see current fashion trends by way of a real fashion show and leave with tips on how to make the trends work for her and she’ll do all of this while having a lot of fun!

There is even a special workshop the adult woman in her life, who can join us after lunch to learn more about partnering with like-minded folks on raising a marvelous girl. It takes a village but, a healthy one is preferred.

Speaking of special women, there is a group of women at SMU, Sisters Supporting Sisters, who are very special partners in designing this day. These college women will help facilitate workshops, provide mentorship and be examples of how cool it is for girls to support other girls.

Without a doubt, every girl, regardless of age, will leave the Marvelous Girls’ Summit knowing she IS a marvelous GIRL! Attachment-1 (5)

When: October 28, 2017

Where: SMU, Hughes-Trigg Student Center

Time: 8:30 am – 4:30 pm

Character Education Workshops:

*Building awesome friendships

*Maintaining a healthy self-image

*Choosing how fashion trends work for you

*Being! Vulnerable, Brave & Taking Risk

*Raising a Marvelous Girls (family engagement with adult women only)

Activities
*Fun!

*Dance breaks (Zumba anyone?)

*Fun!

*Team building

*Fun!

*Time for reflection and journaling in her Marvelous Girl workbook

*Fun!

Marvelous Girls’ Summit Registration includes workshop materials, t-shirt, gift bag, breakfast, lunch, snacks throughout the day AND you (her favorite adult) for the afternoon session! Yes, all of that is included in your registration (🙂)

Register today!

Register by October 18th: $77

Registration after October 18th: $97

We are excited about this day and look forward to you joining us!  If you have any questions, please email info@marvelousuniversity.com and someone will reply as soon as possible. Or the old fashion phone call works too, 202-425-0641.

Thank you for joining me and Marvelous University on this journey create a day for a girl to have one of the best days of her life, like this girl here.

Have a Marvelous Monday & a GREAT week,

Shanterra

PS: And if you’re not in the Dallas area but, you want to sponsor a middle school girl to attend, email me and I’d be happy to help you make a middle school girl grin!

 

Marvelous Modification (Issa Sale)

Because you are friends of Marvelous University, I wanted you to hear it here first. This weekend, we are having a Marvelous Modification for the Marvelous Girls’ Summit. In other words, we’re having a sale. Attachment-1 (5)

My teammates and I talked about it and the way we see it, so many folks are having special promotions this weekend so why not us? Mattresses are on sale, car dealerships are practically “giving away” cars, and I’m sure there’s even a sale at the mall, all in honor of an explorer.

Well, I am not a fan of Columbus Day but I am a fan of promotions and modifications, especially for a great reason. And registering your middle school girl for the 2nd Annual Marvelous Girls’ Summit is a great reason!

Issa Promotion!

How do you take advantage of this marvelous modification? You enter the discount code MMIS on the registration site and you’re good to go. That’s it! Attachment-1 (6)The promotion is only good for this weekend and expires Monday. So share the love, pass this post on to others and make sure the middle school girls that you love are at the Marvelous Girls’ Summit!

See you there 🙂

 

You Heard It Here First

Hey there!

I know, I know. It’s been a couple of weeks since you’ve heard from me but, trust, it’s been for good reason. I’ve been on the road, from New Orleans for a beautiful wedding of a sweet Cali Cousin to my old stomping ground of Washington, DC, speaking at a couple of schools connecting with young people.

In the midst of all of that, still planning and preparing for the Marvelous Girls’ Summit, which is less than a month away! Attachment-1 (2)

What is the Marvelous Girls’ Summit? It is a day for middle school girls to come together and just BE! Girls will learn how to have “perfect” friendship; rejoice and celebrate loving her body as it is (she will love the jiggle talk); see current fashion trends in the form of a real fashion show and take away tips on how to make the trends work for her and she’ll do all of this while having a lot of fun!

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If you haven’t registered your 6th-grader, click here.

If you haven’t registered your 7th-grader, click here.

And if you still haven’t registered your 8th-grader, click here.

Oh and I’ve received a few (well, more than a few) questions on why the summit is for middle school girls?

Do you remember middle school? 😳 Do you remember that awkward feeling of everything changing without your consent? Your friendships. Your body. The adults in your house! Well, the adults didn’t change, really you were the one changing but, it felt like it was everyone but YOU!

Middle school is complex, wonderful, and different and one topic that comes up a lot in middle school is girls and self-esteem. This REALLY helped confirm for me why the summit is crucial for this age group.

And what about you as the adult woman in her life? We didn’t forget YOU! There is a very special marvelous mom and mentor conversation just for you (don’t worry, this is included in the registration). Attachment-1 (4)

And if you’re reading this and you’re thinking, “I don’t have a middle school girl or even know a middle school girl” but, you want to sponsor a girl who cannot afford the investment. You too can register for the summit and send an email to info@marvelousuniversity.com to let us know. We will make sure your registration is given to a girl who would love to attend but, is unable to because of cost. Thank you 💕

In the next few weeks, we’ll hear from past participants on why the Marvelous Girls’ Summit had such an impact on them. In the meantime, when you think of questions, email info@marvelousuniversity.com and someone will get back to you as soon as possible.

With Gratitude,
Shanterra

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